My wife died nearly two and a half years ago. Because I enjoy companionship, I eventually decided to try out online dating services.
I hope this doesn't squeeze all the romance out of things, but I am dealing with a numbers game in seeking the appropriate woman.
Back in high school the girls were all single -- available to one degree or another (some were "going steady" and therefore not in the dating market). College was largely similar, though some young women were already married while others were engaged. Still others were "pinned" to a frat man (engaged-to-be-engaged was the concept, a serious form of going steady). And there were some simply going steady. Nevertheless, that left plenty of gals free for dating and relationship formation.
Note that these same situations applied to women seeking men.
Roll the calendar ahead more than a few decades and the availability situation changes. By that point, aside from the very elderly, the majority of people are married. There also are those currently divorced or widowed or never-married. But the latter groups are probably a minority. Worse, they are much harder to find in the real world than back in the days of high school and college.
Sitting in a Starbucks, gazing around the room, it's not easy to decide who might be available for a date. Okay, eliminate those wearing wedding rings -- but some of the rest might be "steady" already or not interested.
Hence, on-line dating services. The contacts displayed are vetted as being interested in finding a partner. And there are many of them.
How that system actually works will be presented in the next post.
As everyone knows, men usually die younger than women, and besides many marriages involve a husband a few years older than the wife. So, plentiful old lady supply. You seem to be a cultured and financially OK retired guy. Tread carefully.
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